Things That Make You Go Hmph!

By nature, this blogger is a patient one. There has been a lot of trying times in her early years that she has learned to be happy at even the simplest of reasons. She also has learned to stay mum about pressing situations, enduring what needs to be endured despite the level of difficulty in maintaining a relaxed, unaffected stance.

Through the years, you’d think she will have perfected this craft already – and she thinks she has. She gets disappointed, hurt, or discouraged, but you won’t hear her say it. She always chooses to cloak herself in silence (which actually kills her).

When faced with adversities of any kind, she doesn’t fold. Instead, she takes a deep breath and flexes in anticipation of any hard blow from any direction.

She is just human and here are things that make her go, “Hmph!”

Bypassing her. She exists, but you refuse to recognize that she’s an entity and a significant one at that! A simple acknowledgment of the fact that she owns something (although you have given that something as a gift to her in the past) is enough. Please do not volunteer to lend her precious possessions without telling her about it first – even if you were the one who bought it for her. She may seem mindless about other stuff but where her prized things are concerned, she MINDS A LOT.

And it’s not of selfishness that she acts or reacts that way because she is a giver. You bypassed her, it’s a whiplash in every sense of the word.

In so many aspects of the domestic partnership, there is really no consultation of any sort. You run the show, that’s it. She’s just an ornament – a nice piece for social aesthetic’s sake.

Ignoring her. Relationships are important to her. She cherishes every friendship. When she has committed herself, she has to be assured. Ignoring her needs – the not-so obvious though gargantuan ones, make her rebel and retaliate in silence. There just isn’t any excuse for overlooking one such essential element in a married-like relationship.

Complacency. Being at home with somebody shouldn’t automatically equate to being complacent about that somebody. Do not be deceived by her cheerful personality. Beneath that bedimpled smile is a questioning heart – uncertain, shakened. Remember who she was when you first met her – she had that awful tendency to settle things on her own, in her own way.

Feelings of being misplaced or displaced. For years now she’s been misplaced – she claims a spot but that spot isn’t really for her – she’s just a reliever or substitute. So, what follows is the feeling of being displaced instantly when everyone around her is permanent and she’s not. She belongs, but does she really?

If you don’t know her too well you’ll find all these to be vague. If you think you know her, you’ll have a slight understanding of what she’s really trying to say. If you don’t know her one bit – it’ll be easy for you to be judgmental.

She’s all nonverbal and that’s what’s wrong with her.

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